FAITH IN THE FATHER
Someone said to me....
"My dad loved me. He was the leader of our home. He loved my mother deeply. He loved us unconditionally. But he was just lost. And he sent me into some really dangerous situations, even as a very young child. And he gave me incredibly damaging advice as a teenager. I think that is affecting how I view God the Father now. It has always been easier for me to turn to Jesus instead of God the Father. I have a strange mix of believing that God the Father truly loves me,
but that He can't be trusted all the way.
Or most of the way. Or in all the obvious ways.
I know He is GOD and that means He is supposed to be good and know everything,
but I can't trust Him enough to just
"Jump into the deep end of the swimming pool when I don't know how to swim" kind of way.
Where do I go from here?"
What you just described is not unusual at all...
It can be confusing to see that our earthly father has a good heart
but be without wisdom in an area we need him to be there for us.
But this is true of each and every one of us, and in all human relationships.
No one has wisdom in all areas and in everything...but GOD.
When there have been areas of trust that have been breached with a father
or was not ever established in the natural, it will show up in how we see GOD as a Father.
No matter how wonderful your earthly father may be, when he is not born-again,
he cannot have the love and wisdom to be the father GOD would have him to be.
In order for natural fathers to represent the heart of GOD,
they would need to have a relationship and be dependent on GOD for themselves first.
They cannot give to their children what they have not received from GOD
or teach them what they do not understand about GOD.
When a father was not present in the home or he did not know how to be a safe place,
it brings a lack of trust in GOD as FATHER into the child.
Most people find it easier to relate to Jesus because of father issues.
Yet Jesus said, "I come to show you the Father."
And Jesus said, "Me and my Father are One."
So when we are comfortable with Jesus, without our realizing it sometimes,
we are actually seeing the FATHER.
We see who GOD the FATHER is through His Son...but we may not always recognize it
or make the connection.
It is when scripture becomes alive to our heart,
and we believe it,
that GOD the FATHER
gives us great confidence in the words that Jesus spoke in the scriptures above,
and we allow it to bring us to a place of safety in GOD as FATHER.
It is our natural fathers that help develop and establish our identity and self-confidence.
Our ability to be vulnerable and trust others is developed in a place of safety at home.
It begins by establishing a sense of worth and value in ourselves
that the father instills into the child.
Many times this do not happen and as adults we find ourselves
trying to win the acceptance and approval of our parents later in life
because we were not affirmed as a child by them.
When we can be vulnerable without fear, we can become secure in who we are.
Trust always involves being vulnerable and being open to having our heart wounded again.
Sometimes we are so afraid of what it would look like to be vulnerable,
we would rather not go there at all.
We would rather try to protect our heart from breaking rather than discover
the most embraceable part of what our heart was created to contain, GOD Himself.
Sometimes trusting GOD is a matter of not trusting ourselves.
It is a place of realizing we don't know what we need and GOD is the only One Who does.
We must develop a place in GOD where we expect Him
to really be GOD in our lives...
We need GOD to speak to us, lead and guide us in the direction we should go.
After seeking GOD, praying, believing, repenting and crying out to him and telling Him
that we want to know Him, want to do His will and be known of Him...
we must then accept the fact that we can really hear from GOD.
Many times, we get stuck right here in doubt and unbelief.
We cannot not just listen to our own thoughts, or listen to accusation from the enemy...
If GOD is not speaking to make Himself known, He would not expect us to hear of obey Him.
How could we be obedient to Him if He didn't tell us what He wants us to obey?
We will hear Him speak to us through scripture and His voice.
His voice will always be in agreement with His Word...
We may be convinced we are hearing the enemy pretend to be GOD,
just to deceive us, so we become double-minded about our decisions.
Even after we hear GOD... we often doubt we have.
And we do not trust GOD to get through to us sometimes...although He will,
and then many times... we believe we cannot hear Him... so we remain in unbelief.
GOD says,
"My sheep hear my voice...and follow me."
Maybe we are not being sheep.
Maybe we are being more goat oriented in nature, rather than sheep like in the Spirit… :0)
Goats are usually very stubborn.
Goats respond by saying things like, I know...when we really don't.
We respond in fear when GOD tries to show us something different
Part of needing GOD is realizing we don't know...but He does.
It takes faith to believe in what we cannot see.
Without faith, it impossible to please GOD...and hear from Him.
Doubt and unbelief will tell you GOD will speak to someone else, but not to you.
Recognizing GOD's voice and trusting we heard the right thing,
or even believing that it really was GOD, requires us learning to discern His voice.
The more time we spend with GOD and develop an ear to recognize when He speaks to us,
the more confident we are the next time we hear Him speak.
Cultivate your relationship with GOD by studying the Word of GOD and know what the Bible says.
GOD will use scripture to speak to you, or He will confirm what He said to you with scripture.
Knowing the Word of GOD is a must in order to hear Him speak into your situations
where you are needing an answer only GOD can give.
It is this fear of GOD the Father that blocks our perception.
Because we have father issues, we transfer our beliefs over to GOD and question His Fatherhood.
We can refuse to believe that GOD has our best interest at heart.
We are often afraid GOD will not speak to us or maybe what He would say if He does.
Conquering fear and moving forward with GOD will help overcome all the past doubts
about who GOD is and how to relate to Him.
Even if we miss hearing GOD and we make a mistake…
if our heart was to follow Him and obey, GOD will get us back on the right path.
He will correct our course and then take whatever the enemy intended for evil and make work together for good…
if we believe and trust He will do just that.
But trust is something that has to be developed in relationship without fear.
Trusting GOD to be the One we trust have to be developed... instead of trusting everyone else,
And trusting GOD will keep us from placing our trust in others the wrong way.
When our worth, value, and acceptance from GOD is established,
we can love and accept others without having to worry about being disappointed or hurt.
If they do something that we didn’t expect or something that pierce our heart,
our heart won’t break any more.
The love we so desperately require, has now been received from the One
who loves us unconditionally.
We find security and stability in GOD’s acceptance and by receiving His love.
Always remember GOD is the perfect Father.
Because that is who He is, He cannot be untrustworthy. It would be impossible.
And He is perfect in all His ways.
The temptation is to compare GOD to something that is created rather than uncreated,
is the result of fear (Satan’s kingdom) always projecting the worst instead of the best.
That same kingdom trying to separate us from GOD and His love for us.
But it’s a matter of deciding who we are going to listen?
If we give our attention to GOD, and we believe what GOD says…the battle is over.
If we doubt or refuse to believe what GOD says,
we will be vulnerable to the lies of the enemy.
We will accept the Satan’s lies as truth about who we are.
Because GOD'S character is impeccable,
we can rest assured He is good and cannot be anything else.
We can trust Him even when we have no true understanding of what the outcome
really looks like.
Any good father corrects his children and teaches them.
GOD, your FATHER is going to chasten, correct, teach, admonish, and do things sometimes
that seems like He doesn’t care or love us.
GOD's love is different than our perception of what love is in the natural.
If we don’t understand this, we may come to the wrong conclusion about GOD.
Most trust issues with GOD are around misunderstandings
where GOD didn’t show up the way we thought he would.
Often, we want GOD fix something the way we feel it should be fixed,
instead of yielding to GOD’s wisdom and allowing Him to do it His way.
When we try and control GOD, we are really fearful of trusting at a deeper level.
We are not willing to let go and believe GOD has the problem under control.
Oftentimes, the situation may get worse before it is resolved.
God is working behind the scenes and we think nothing is happening.
This is where we must trust God…even when we cannot know the outcome.
But the resolution may not come from the other end… or person we want GOD to correct.
God may resolve the issue in your own heart although your circumstances may remain the same.
You may realize how you saw things before, was not God's perspective after all...
Remaining teachable will allow GOD to bring correction...
you will be able to deal with them is completely different now.
Actually, GOD is changing us, getting us to the pace where we are stable in Him
no matter what is going on around us.
GOD can only do this when we give him permission by relinquishing the right
to fix the problem ourselves. It is when we let GOD have complete control.
Being able to do this, is one of realization and agreement, more than process.
We should realize no one but GOD is qualified to know all the details and come up with a solution…then let Him do it.
The results we experience and the outcome obtained is up to us.
It depends on if we will trust GOD and leave the results up to Him.
GOD is reshaping you to contain the life of His Son…
a place where Christ feels comfortable being at home in you.
The Holy Spirit is preparing you to become who you never though you could ever be.
Before you can be all GOD planned for you to become,
GOD the FATHER will grows you and mature you into a child!
Maybe for the first time…
A child that simply depends on GOD to provide for everything…everything they need.
After all…the Kingdom belongs to such as these.
Let go of the fears that stop you from seeing GOD as the wonderful FATHER He really is.
When you trust Him, He will bring His peace to your heart and you will be able to say,
"I can do all things and endure all things with great contentment and peace,
as I allow GOD to live through me, He will be my solution to every dilemma I face."
GOD created you for Himself.
So if in the natural you haven’t ever experienced the true love of a father,
it is never too late to begin.
You were only given to your natural father so he could bring you into the
Fatherhood of GOD.
GOD will be the FATHER you have always wanted ...
He is just waiting on you to just come to Him out of need and depend on Him.
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No matter where you are in your father relationships, in the natural or heavenly realms,
take a moment and ask your Heavenly Father to be your true FATHER.
Tell Him how you feel,
and trust He knows how to comfort you in the midst of anything you are facing right now.
Then decide to start on a journey of knowing Him as your FATHER.
Even if you have a good relationship with GOD the FATHER now,
there is always more!
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